Just Ask – The Agile Risky Way

Following my Just Ask post, I chatted with  Gregory Farmakis, CEO of Agilis about the uncomfortable “ask.” This is his story about the victory of perseverance, the arrogance of youth, and the lessons that come with age and experience.  And, while hesitation earns you the time to think, in the end taking the risk earns you the ultimate win – even if failure is always a possibility.

LK:  Asking for help and getting denied, rejected, brushed off is never easy. Do you ask for help – even if it means risking rejection?

GF:  I do believe in asking, frankly. Asking for advice, asking for feedback, asking for information, asking for argument and disagreement. In times of doubt, just asking someone I trust without really caring about bruising my ego, my image, just to listen and get the support.

LK: You chose to name your company “Agilis” because of its meaning. Agility – and mental agility in particular is a core value here. How does it work in a story of asking?

GF: The year is 2000 and Agilis is a year old start-up with a tiny young team. And there is this huge multi-million IT project to design a very complex statistical data warehouse for a government organization. We have no chance for the bid – no experience, track record or references other than our brilliant academic credentials. And to top it off, a large and quite “successful” IT integrator is bidding.  Yet, we are determined to go in and fight for the work. But what we lack on paper, we make up with a mountain of boldness, confidence and this unfounded arrogance that has us convinced  that only we – at Agilis – really know how to design this data warehouse! Several e-mails and phone calls later, we get the appointment with the project manager, but instead of letting him ask the questions to judge our technical competence, I start pounding: “how do you intend to design this, what concept will you apply for that?..” Always with this undecipherable arrogant smile of the über-confident engineer who knows it all and knows better. The meeting ends cordially but we do not get the follow-up call. No contract. Nil. Rejection hurts but of course, we are too proud to beg for another meeting, a second chance.

LK: So, this is the uncomfortable part, the rejection, the perceived failure. Then, what?

Half a year goes by – and while we are struggling, we are also learning. The project manager calls and asks to see us again. The project has come to a complete halt. A “paralysis by analysis” syndrome has afflicted the team in charge, producing hundreds of pages of documents and not a single line of code. Would we like to give it a shot and go for the whole design project? The risk is huge: the project is running out of time and we only have two months to deliver. Would a more sensible team accept the challenge and take the risk? No one had before us anyway. So, at that point in time, agility came to play a huge role along with the sheer determination of our passion to make it, to show the world how we could do what others could not. Four additional contracts and two years later we had already succeeded not only on delivering the data warehouse design but also the system architecture, the design of software applications and a re-engineering of the business processes. 

LK: Would you have done anything differently if you went back in time for that first meeting?

GF: Maybe I would be less arrogant and stubborn about presenting my own concept for a project I didn’t really know the details. Maybe I would have called back and done the follow-up.  But I say this now, with all my years of experience, so perhaps – even if I went back in time -I would have done the same mistakes; I treasure these mistakes. Maybe the way was wrong, but the passion and determination did make the difference.

LK: What do you think made the project manager remember you half a year later? You did not prompt the call – he came back to you. You must have impressed him – do you know how/why?

GF:  We talked about that with him later (we became friends during the project). He recognized we had stronger qualifications than his own team and in spite of our lack of practical experience in big projects, we knew what we were talking about. The reason he didn’t gave us the contract in the first place was that he didn’t think it was necessary. He underestimated the complexity of the work and believed he could design it with his in-house team.

LK: Where’s the lesson in all this?

GF: Hmm.. core subject matter knowledge and competence do count of course. Yet, risk taking – we were not afraid to jump in to save an almost failed project was paramount.  That and this brilliant late night idea for an elegant solution for which I am so proud as the project would be impossible to finish without that.

Just Ask

“Most people never pick up the phone, most people never ask. And that’s what separates, sometimes, the people that do things from the people that just dream about them. You gotta act. And you gotta be willing to fail… if you’re afraid of failing, you won’t get very far.”

This 1995 Steve Jobs interview by the Santa Clara Valley Historical Association, was shown on a recent PBS documentary.

What do you think?

Would Bill Hewlett answer the phone and give the parts to a twelve year old high school student today? Would his phone be listed in the first place?

While social networks and privacy and the cloud have made some more accessible and open, they have also created walls and barriers. Negativity and suspicion is part of reality – yet a sense of “giving” and “sharing” in some circles is stronger than ever. In the era of Occupy Wall Street, the 99 percent mindset and the moneygeddon jolly bad times, what is your experience? Have you asked and got rejected? And then what? Did you ask again someone else?  And did you take the risk and failed – and failed again – until you finally made it? What did you learn? What did you do differently next time and how did this make the difference – did it?

And is simply asking the questions and watching and reading about failure and success enough, unless you really take the plunge and simply go ahead and ask or do…

 

PS: Grateful to Maria Popova for her inspired curious mind and her links to some of Steve Jobs interviews.

 

Jekyll and Hyde Revisited

 

“I guess we’re all two people. One daylight, and the one we keep in shadow.” Bruce Wayne/Batman, Batman Forever

Jekyll and Hyde Revisited is a guest post published on a friend’s blog.

Who are you Really? Tweeting, emailing, curating and living through the eyes of Klout, Facebook likes, and RTs. Yet, never – ever forget that whatever you do, the face you see in the mirror may be the stranger you don’t really know…

Read more…

 

Service Lessons Not Included

 

Certifiably “smart?” Perfect 4.0 G.P.A, all the “right” pedigreed schools and lots of initials after your name sort of guaranteeing your bright future?

Recession aside, not much to fear when it comes to jobs, success and money, right?

Walking into the Stanford Li Ka Shing Center giving a talk to young M.D.s fresh out of med school and on their way to finishing specialty training, I could not help but marvel at this “temple” of cutting edge technology dedicated to the future of medical education. The young men and women I met are so lucky to learn in such a place – ah, correct that – hard working, focused, competent, great aspiring minds who will make the difference in lots of people’s lives, healers, care-givers, compassionate, brilliantly reassuring and doing everything to offer hope…

Yet, as always, life is so much more complex, wavering and intriguing. Similar to lawyers, architects, and all these professionals who deal with people – isn’t really everything we do about connecting an idea, a product, a gadget to and for people? – young college graduates learn the theory of “stuff” while not learning much about service.

Coincidentally, today’s NY Times has a feature story on lawyering. “…The fundamental issue is that law schools are producing people who are not capable of being counselors. They are lawyers in the sense that they have law degrees, but they aren’t ready to be a provider of services.” 

Experience will make better? Of course it will. Yet, the bizarre, hard to explain incredible depth of perception combined with subjective psychology and the wonderful instant flash of a feeling that creeps in and takes over our rational brains can bend the steely weight of pure skills, knowledge, and talent. By now, EQ is an established business term – and even lab rats have been exposed to kindness because of it. Daniel Goleman’s  “emotional intelligence” immortalized the term with his 1995 book and since then hordes of leaders have gone through the “uneasy, esoteric, internal” characteristics of it.

So many young college grads -doctors and lawyers alike – in their maniacal quest to conquer the GPA wars and the sleepless nights that will give them the edge in their game of life, sometimes forget that what it takes to be great is not the science only. The building blocks of emotional smarts–self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill–can sound unbusinesslike, but tell that to the father of the 5 year old cancer patient who all he really needs is hope.

Behind-the-scenes interventions and under the skin healing of invisible wounds are sometimes as critical as prescriptions and treatments. Similar to doctors, lawyers have to help clients overcome pain – and law school does not necessarily teach you how to do that.

Interestingly, most of the young doctors I met at Stanford seemed to know all this. The language of business had long ago crept into their professional lives and they were open to consider those things that make them uncomfortable – what keeps them up at night; what do they want to be known for; what “best” means to them; where do they find their circle of support and source of strength.

They had never shared such stories with each other.  Only one senior faculty member – admittedly a great mentor and adviser to them all – was present and no other senior physicians were in the room to listen in. When asked to give a big picture sort of their life map, less than half could paint their own life canvas.

“Very young, they don’t know yet,..”  the senior faculty member speculated later. But while they are old enough to treat patients or if lawyers, defend clients from going to jail, we don’t do everything we possibly can to prepare them for actual service.

It may be a bird, but will it fly? Not when you are sitting buck naked on the exam-table thinking that the mole on your back is cancer; not when you are about to lose your house; not when your hopes are in this young doctor’s or lawyer’s hands… No, it really won’t.

 

Supposed to Be – Not For Halloween Only

What are you supposed to be, really? Don’t tell me you had not been Calvin – ever! It has to be true. The ingenious Bill Watterson must have secretly known me and based Calvin and Hobbes on me! Yeah, right – I know… you, too.  And the kid inside of me – inside of all of us – is alive and well and swells up so often.

But I am not supposed to be a kid anymore!  My/our kids – the new kids on the block, the “Occupy Wall Street” generation comes knocking on our doors trick or treating. So, when our door bell rings tonight – and when we go to work tomorrow, how will we face the agony and cries of the younger generation – what will we do, what will we say, how will we manage, and how will we counsel and support them?

“Most of us are egotistical and most are self-concerned most of the time, but it’s nonetheless true that life comes to a point only in those moments when the self dissolves into some task. The purpose in life is not to find yourself. It’s to lose yourself…” The cult of self-fulfillment as David Brooks of the NY Times had pointedly written in a brilliant column “It’s Not About You” is what the smart little Calvin inside of all of us cries out in defiance.

I’m with Brooks and his words of admonition against this cult, the “business individualism.” The more entrepreneurs, and charismatic people I get to know, the more convinced I am that real happiness, a genuine sense of satisfaction, comes not from “finding” yourself but from losing” yourself — in work that gives you meaning, a battle worth fighting for, a pledge to find the solution for a problem that means something not for you alone but for others as well.

“The true measure of success is not the value you create for yourself but the values that define your work and how you lead and live.” In this day and age of a lack of leadership such words sound counter intuitive. This is the age of the rebel, the start-up, the misfit, the Zuckerman and the Steve Jobs era. But whatever happens — these who dare to change the world – have chosen who they are supposed to be: And their sense of purpose, their willingness to struggle, the legacy they and their colleagues hope to leave – has defined them forever.

So, have you decided what you are supposed to be yet?

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